When you change the way you look at things the things you look at change – Dr. Wayne Dyer
Challenges are an inevitable aspect of life and at the heart of facing these challenges stands resilience—our innate ability that empowers us individuals to navigate adversity with strength and adaptability. Being self-confident is not merely having the capacity to courageously manoeuvre every situation; it’s also the art of being resourceful in thought and attitude, transforming challenges into stepping stones for growth.
In this article, we will explore the concept of developing self-confidence and its significance in the face of life’s trials. Going beyond mere survival, a confident mindset becomes our catalyst for transformation and shaping the narrative of our experiences.
Now, how often do you say, I can’t do this or that? You’ve probably heard before that what you speak out loud, time and time again becomes your dominant belief and as such your attitude towards things.
As Henry Ford once said if you think you can or cannot, either way you are right.
Let’s now delve into the transformative impact of cultivating resilience as an integral part of building our self-confidence, discovering how it not only helps weather the storms but also fosters a profound sense of personal growth and empowerment.
Having a resilient mindset is not an easy task and for a lot of us too many broken dreams, disappointments and rejections have slowly chipped away at the self-worth and resulted in a defeat mindset.
In my work as a coach, I have found that the resilient mindset also known as the winner’s mindset is mostly about attitude and beliefs, and can be cultivated through several ways.
At the core of resilience lies the backbone of a growth mindset, which is the fundamental perspective that shapes how we approach challenges and setbacks. A growth mindset is rooted in the belief that abilities and intelligence can be developed through dedication, hard work, and a willingness to learn.
It forms the sturdy foundation upon which resilience is built, transforming obstacles from insurmountable barriers into opportunities for personal and intellectual growth.
Challenges as Opportunities for Learning and Growth
A growth mindset helps us reframe challenges as essential components of our learning journey. Instead of viewing difficulties as indicators of shortcomings, individuals with a growth mindset see them as stepping stones for improvement.
We begin to see that our challenges are not roadblocks, but rather, opportunities to stretch our capabilities, deepen our understanding, and enhance our skills.
In this light, a growth mindset serves as our compass, guiding us to embrace adversity with curiosity and determination. Rather than succumbing to the weight of setbacks, those with a growth mindset view challenges as a means of refining their abilities and acquiring new knowledge to ultimately emerge from difficulties stronger and more adept.
This transformative perception of challenges moves us forward and lays the groundwork for continuous growth in the face of life’s unknown adversities. So now let’s see 5 practical ways to build a resilient mindset.
Don’t take things too personally.
Taking things too personally results in a victim mentality where things feel as if everyone is against you or there is something wrong with you as a person. If you are rejected for a position or in a relationship acknowledge your feelings when it happens and then move on.
Yes, it is not always that easy so be kind to yourself and just as you would advise a dear one, kindly do that for you. Another thought is to choose to see it as not the right fit for you and there is nothing wrong with you but that something better will happen instead.
Remove the word I can’t, I am not and I lack, from your vocabulary.
Whatever the challenge if you are willing to learn or tackle it you are bound to find help somewhere especially online so before you go on to say any of these make sure you have at least tried your hand at it and not been able to achieve the desired goal.
Someone’s perception of you has nothing to do with you but everything to do with them.
People are indeed mirrors of our “selves” – that is emotions, attitudes and thoughts, so the next time someone makes you feel bad remember you’re mirroring to them what they dislike about themselves and nothing to do with you as a person or your worth.
Ask yourself, is this goal and dream that I want going to make me happy, is it going to help others and is it going to make the world a better place when I achieve it?
These are questions you can ask when the doubts kick in and if you can answer “Yes” to them all then trust yourself and the journey and keep on moving because the great win is a result of all the smaller actions.
Know that this too shall pass. Definitely!
No matter how hard or bad the situation looks now, know that whatever it is that you are going through, it will surely pass. Yes it’s taking time but it will pass, no one knows the exact time the tide will turn but we know it will, so hold on a little longer now.
Embracing Resilience to Empower Our Mind
To support our journey to cultivating a resilient mindset, I have shared five transformative strategies that have served as guiding principles, paving the way for strength and adaptability in the face of life’s challenges and that which has improved my self-confidence greatly.
Don’t take things too personally. Laying the foundation of resilience by adopting a victor mindset, not dwelling on challenges or thinking you are at fault.
Remove the word I can’t, I am not and I lack, from your vocabulary. Strengthening your resilience by adopting an I can do attitude
Someone’s perception of you has nothing to do with you but everything to do with them Being less concerned with people’s opinions and concentrating on you and your abilities. Leaning more on your intuitive feedback and what drives you.
Ask yourself, is this goal and dream that I want going to make me happy, is it going to help others and is it going to make the world a better place when I achieve it? The dream you have in your heart is yours alone so trust that if you can answer to these questions in the affirmative then it is your responsibility to bring it to life.
Know that this too shall pass. Definitely! Knowing and understanding that no situation is permanent and that whatever it is that is happening will also end.
Remember, resilience is not a fixed trait but a dynamic skill that we can develop and strengthen over time. Being resilient improves our belief in ourselves, thus increasing the confidence we have in our abilities. It is a lifelong skill that when developed helps us navigate the challenges we face.
These practices and attitudes have helped me through some tough times and if they help you in any way or if you are not sure how to tackle any of them leave a comment and let me know how I can help
Also here is a journal prompt to get you started.
What does rejection mean to me and how do I handle it? I would love to know your thoughts about this question so please share in the comments.
Love & Light
Sheila Daisy
